making mistakes is a normal part of growing up and I made a few of them. the best word of advise I have ever gotten was that live is too short and we have too little money too make all of our own mistakes so we should learn out of other people's mistakes.
some mistakes that have been made, include:
- allowing to loose your childhood just because your parents needed a grown up to talk to.
- allowing your step-mother to intrude the relationship between daughter/son and the father.
- being a bully just because you were fighting battles with yourself.
- allowing to be bullied just because you feel that you aren't worth being treated like a respected human being, reflecting your relationships at home.
- hating your half-brother/sister, they had problems of their own to deal with, they grew up to get to know the part of you which your step-mother wanted them to believe of you instead of getting to know who you really were because you never allowed it.
- you allowed the relationship between your father and you to influence the type of men/women you accept in your life
- you allowed a man to be the cause of you loosing every relationship you had with family and friends who only tried to help you
- you convinced yourself that what he did that night was right and that you were the one with problems
- you also convinced yourself that whatever your family said about you is true and that you aren't worth understanding, dying or fighting for.
- you manipulated yourself into thinking that it would never get better, life will never change, all men/women are the same and you can't trust anybody. so you build walls high enough to ensure that nobody would ever be able to climb it.